I believe stillbirth is misunderstood by many people. Sometimes it is not looked at as a "real" loss, because the baby spent no time outside of the womb alive.
In reality, having a stillborn baby IS a real loss. A baby in a mother's womb is just as alive as you and me. When you give birth to a baby that has already passed, you grieve the loss of a child. The bond between a mother and child is formed from the first pregnancy test. Grieving the loss of a child is the worst feeling. It really brings you to an emotionally awful place.
The true pain is losing a child you love deeply. It is longing for just one more moment with them. It is despair, and lonely. The true pain is knowing that you won't celebrate a first birthday, or see that first smile, first steps, and just seeing your baby grow up. It is leaving the delivery room with no baby, and always feeling that a part of you is missing.
The true pain is days and nights of crying, and feeling like you cannot go on.
The pain is very real; pregnancy and infant loss should not be looked at any differently than any other loss. They all take a piece of our heart that won't be filled, until the day we meet again.
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